Let's Talk About JEALOUSY
Moody Talk Jealousy #1: Descriptive Words, Body Sensations and Experiences
Welcome to February’s Moody Talk focusing on Jealousy - an emotion that people don’t want to claim when they have it - but is also a very VALID emotion.
What is Jealousy? It’s the feeling you get when you think something or someone you care deeply for is being taken away by someone else. Can you see why I chose it for the month of Love? But it’s not just for relationships, it can be a highly sparked emotion in the job environment, as well.
So how do we know we are jealous? Let’s look at descriptive words and body sensations that go along with jealousy. As always, I start each month off with figuring out intensity levels so we can figure out what coping skills we can use in the moment. I’ve added what kind of feelings we experience and what actions we may take when feeling jealous.
As always, if you have any questions or comments about this month’s emotion, please don’t hesitate to comment below! If you would like to discuss a specific aspect of Jealousy please let me know.
If you are having a hard time coping with your emotions or you feel hopeless, I hope you will reach out to a trusted loved one, your doctor/therapist or the 988 suicide text hotline. You are not alone. You are loved.
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Moody Talk Jealousy #2: All-the-Way Opposite Action
Jealousy is a really hard emotion to admit to. I mean, who wants to talk about being jealous? It can be embarrassing and you could feel even a bit creepy because this emotion makes you feel weak. Like you’re being silly. Whether the feeling is justified or unjustified it’s important that there is communication between you and whoever you are trying to protect your relationship with.
All-the-Way Opposite Action is a DBT skill that helps you to push yourself in the other direction to help promote trust and lessen fear. Why “All-the-Way?” Because it is an extreme change. It means going from expressing or acting on intense jealousy and it works well when communicating with others. Talking about jealousy can be a huge step towards promoting healthy relationships.
As always, if you have any questions or comments about this month’s emotion, please don’t hesitate to comment below! If you would like to discuss a specific aspect of Anger, please let me know.
If you are having a hard time coping with your emotions or you feel hopeless, I hope you will reach out to a trusted loved one, your doctor/therapist or the 988 suicide text hotline. You are not alone. You are loved.
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Moody Talk Jealousy #3: Using ACCEPTS for Distress Tolerance
This week we are focusing on another great DBT Acronym - ACCEPTS. Each action of ACCEPTS helps to lessen intense feelings by suggesting other things you can focus on. How is this different from other acronyms in DBT? It gives you so many choices with the hope that one will allow you to avert a crisis. Some suggestions will work while others won't resonate - but it opens up a few avenues to try in order to step away from a distressing situation.
As always, if you have any questions or comments about this month’s emotion, please don’t hesitate to comment below! If you would like to discuss a specific aspect of Jealousy, please let me know.
If you are having a hard time coping with your emotions or you feel hopeless, I hope you will reach out to a trusted loved one, your doctor/therapist or the 988 suicide text hotline. You are not alone. You are loved.
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Moody Talk #4 Jealousy: Interpersonal Effectiveness
Throughout the month I've been getting to know the emotion Jealousy better. What I understand of my little emotion journey is that it is very important for a relationship to discuss when someone is feeling jealous.
Because it's not something we want to admit - it can feel like you're being unreasonable or even juvenile.
But without communicating this emotion, what are doing to your own emotional wellness? Can that feeling fester and become Anger? It certainly can!
So our last Moody Talk discusses interpersonal effectiveness using the DBT skills that can help you get what you need, what the other person may need and keeping your respect for the other and yourself intact.
As always, if you have any questions or comments about this month’s emotion, please don’t hesitate to comment below! If you would like to discuss a specific aspect of Jealousy, please let me know.
If you are having a hard time coping with your emotions or you feel hopeless, I hope you will reach out to a trusted loved one, your doctor/therapist or the 988 suicide text hotline. You are not alone. You are loved.
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